You remember watching those movies where after a break up session, the girl is all sad and sobbing and crying and what not. And suddenly the door bell rings. She goes and opens the door, and there he is. He has come back for he loves her enormously. And with that happy music in the background, your heart forgets all your own worries and you can feel the happiness as if your own lover has come back to you. But in reality will he ever come back?

The Reality Lover

Coming back to reality, you and your lover had a break up and you are feeling awful. You feel actual, real pain in your heart. No matter what you are doing your mind runs back to your past, to unanswered questions – Did I do something wrong? Am I not interesting anymore? Did he find someone else? Is he missing me at all?– Everyday the moment your phone rings, you jump to your phone because you think its him. Every message and you go wild hoping its his message but its some stupid company message or some other stupid message. After a week you have almost gone mad. You hear your phone ringing but nobody called. You were sure you heard the message beep but there wasn’t any message. You are just hoping that he will show up at your door or your office and confess his love for you and he will put an end to your agony.

The Reality Strikes

Its been 15 days and there is no communication from his side. He has not unfriended you from anywhere, blocked you from anywhere. You have messaged him literally a begging message and he has not seen them even when he is online 20 hours a day or you have not messaged him at all but you open your whatsapp or messenger every half an hour just to see his last seen. You open fb only to check his timeline. But you still have hope that just like in movies he will come to his senses and he will show up at your door.

I have a bad news. He is never going to show up at your door. His love was a lie. He loved you for some reason – sex, money, time pass etc. He has left you because he has fulfilled his purpose. He wanted sex, he got sex. He wanted money, he got money. He was bored, so he got you to pass his time. What did you get? You got pain, suffering, but the worst of all is HOPE if you still have it. My dearest if you have the hope and you are living with this hope for a week, a month or a year, you are putting yourself under incredible amount of suffering whilst losing precious moments of your life.

If he has not called you the very next day, not showed up at your door the very next day, then please understand he is the wrong guy. He is probably never going to show up at your door at all. He doesn’t care if you are in pain or suffering. And if he shows up after a week, don’t trust this guy. Because sooner rather than later he is going to leave you. He is not leaving you right now because it suits him.

I am not a dating coach. Just a girl who suffered immeasurably because of the wrong hopes. I believe that if a man would have loved me he would have never put me under unbearable pain. And I have been utterly stupid to increase my own pain with wrong hopes that one day he will show up at my door.

PS :- He never showed up. He married someone else in 6 months.